While no list is complete or an perfect predictor, the following list will go a long way in helping you determine if the relationship you are in is a healthy one.

• You can express your thoughts and feelings without worrying about being ridiculed.
• You can spend time with family and friends without your boyfriend/girlfriend becoming jealous.
• You can have friends of the opposite sex.
• You feel good about yourself when you are around your boyfriend/girlfriend.
• You laugh a lot.
• You both talk freely about your feelings.
• Your mind and your body are respected by your boyfriend/girlfriend.
• You feel free to be yourself around tyour boyfriend/girlfriend.
• You both accept each other's differences.
• During disagreements, you both make an effort to talk it out honestly.
• You are both willing to compromise sometimes.
• You don't feel guilty or pressured by your partner.
• You generally feel appreciated and liked.
• There is no verbal, physical, sexual, or financial abuse going on.
• Your self-esteem grows.